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And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves spouses that you may dwell in tranquillity with them, and instilled love and compassion between you. Verily there are signs in this for those who reflect.
( Al-Quraan )
" The best men among you are those who are the best husbands of their wives. "
(Holy Prophet .s.a.w.w.)
Taj Mehal,
an eastern beauty, one of the seven wonders of the world, was founded by a muslim mughal
ruler, " Shah Jahaan " in memory of his beloved queen "
Mumtaaz Mehal " who passed away in her youth. This great master piece of
eastern-muslim
architecture reminds world of the holy, classical love found only in the east.
Eastern ( Pakistani ) Philosophy Of " LOVE "
Speaking of eastern love philosophy, It doesn't mean ' Give And Take ' . Give and Take is supposed to be a business tactic. In the East, love means ' Give, Give and Give ' without wishing any favour in return. Eastern Love doesn't emphasize on physical attraction and there isn't any ' lust ' factor involved in it. It can happen with a very poor, blind, dumb or even physically disabled person. Eastern love doesn't measure one's feelings by physical anthropometric measurements of human figure. That's why unlike wild-wild-west's ' Love - Making ' concepts, eastern Love is not made by humans. Infact eastern love is not that cheap that anyone can easily "Make it out" ! Eastern Love is an 'Inborn ' feeling gifted to human souls by the nature. It is not ' made ' but ' felt ' by humans.
Pure eastern love doesn't lead human beings to commit ' forbidden ' acts. Love, here, is not something which guides towards shameful, disgusting acts which can damage whole family, society's moral values and social infra structure. Eastern love is a holy, innocent passion, something very sophisticated and modest. So, it leads towards the only right way for eternal satisfaction and spiritual contentment. Only true way for ' fulfilment Of Love' and that is called as "MARRIAGE" !
Now the question is raised that, what's the relationship between ' Marriage and Love ' and how marriage is a fulfilment of Love .
The truth is that, when two hearts love each other, they want to join their names with each other. And not just names , but everything. They want to touch, want to feel, want to cry with each other, laugh and talk with each other. Just think for a moment, if you ever fall in love with someone, and suddenly, every thing of the world turns out to be so beautiful for you, won't you want to keep your beloved always in front of you? to talk with your beloved all the time?
Won't you want to share those dreams which you experience alone, yet ? Won't you want to whisper those thoughts to your beloved which are still present very deep inside your heart ?
So, if you ever feel someone so close to you that you want to spend every second with him / her and want to connect yourself with him / her for whole of the life, forever, then the only true, holy and right way is the bound of ' Marriage '.
Marriage....." Sunnat " of our dear Holy Prophet (s.a.w.w.). A " holy " relation of " trust ". Only right way of physical as well as spiritual contentment which is free from social, illegal and many medical hazards.
When someone gets something in a " forbidden", non religious way, it ignites lust to get more and more and yet one never gets satisfied completely. The sense of " shame ", unseen burden of " something wrong " is always present there.
But in Marriage, one feels responsible and yet non-worried and content.
Marriage, A criteria for judgement of love and sincerity
One of the most wonderful features of marriage commitment is that one can even judge or test his / her own love or the feelings of the other partner by considering or asking about marriage. A cheap person who just passes time or does flirts, would never consider marriage as the 1st option because such people just want temporary companionship for reasons like time - passing, own-personal interests , enjoyment, physical satisfaction, lust or some psychological reasons. They aren't prepared for whole life-long partnership with only one partner. So obviously, they hesitate when it comes to the question of marriage. Those who think that they can love each other without marriage, they are living in false reality and self- denying virtuality. Love doesn't mean going to dates, sleeping with each other and using contraceptives to prevent " un-known / unrelated " fate of their non-marital relations. If they think that their feeling is "love" then why they are scared of "out-comes" of their so called " love " ? Can real love lead to something being ashamed of, afraid of, some nameless " fate " ?
The reason is obvious, they just want physio-sexual satisfaction and are afraid of " responsibilities " of life. They are afraid of raising a family. They are afraid of limiting themselves to one person only.The question, itself, answers the question. Difference is clear, they are in " lust " because wishing to get more and more without being satisfied is the property of " lust ". While getting complete contentment and eternal satisfaction from just one person, is a feature of "love ". So, even at the very 1st stage of love or a relationship that may lead to love, always consider the option of marriage and see the response of your companion , that will tell you how much sincere you both are in those feelings.
Marriage differentiates Humans from Animals
Fake, bogus primal
hypotheses like " Man ( humans
) is a social animal " are
strongly disproved by sophisticated classifications like " clothings " and
" marriage". Yes, marriage is one of those social, natural criterias which
differentiate humans from the species of higher animals . Zoological studies reveal that
during mating season, certain species of higher " animals " get sexually excited
and seek for their partners. After the " process " they leave their partners and
start searching for new one . They don't limit themselves to only one.They do low, sick
and in-human things to satiate their animalistic desire. So, it's clear that "
animals " can have physical relations without marriage.
Marriage brings communities and families, closer
People often wonder why the divorce rate is so much less and decreased in the east (South East Asia ). The answer is very simple and yet so meaningful. Here, marriage doesn't mean just legal and religious bond between two persons but also includes social joining of two whole familes together. Social statistical servey datas express that a huge majority of marraiges, here, is of " arranged - marriage " type and wishes of both of the spouses ( man and woman ) as well as their parents are considered and respected. Plus in the universal religion Islam, divorce is one of the most unpleasant things to Allah and is allowed only in those cases and conditions when life becomes totally miserable and impossible to spend with each other.
Marriage makes life beautiful, wonderful and thoughtful
Being a holy relationship, marriage gives sure possibilities to husband and wife to experience many un-spoken, pure feelings. It's a meaningful and significant relationship, where husband and wife both have their independence and their privacy. Speaking of physical factor, yes, It's also important in marriage and to get complete contentment and spiritual satisfaction, everybody should keep his / her body " pure " and " un-touched " and should reserve every inch of their bodies, " saved " and " reserved " for "life partners" only. One, who reserves his / her body only for life partner gets so much holy pleasure, spiritual satisfaction, beautiful feelings after marriage which only she / he can feel. The feelings of "this is all-mine, just mine, only-mine" is so precious, unique, satisfying and pleasurable that if all the people of the world could feel it, they were never going to believe on bogus and empty concepts of boy-friends and girl friends.
A Thought By ........ Shabber Abidi
Marriage Joins Two People in the Circle of its Love
Marriage is a
commitment to life -
to the best that two people can find
and bring out in each other.
It offers opportunities for sharing and growth
that no other human relationship can equal,
a joining that is promised for a lifetime.
Within the circle of its love,
marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships.
A wife and a husband are each other's best friend,
confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic.
There may come times when one partner is heartbroken or ailing,
and the love of the other
may resemble the tender caring of a parent for a child.
Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life.
Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger;
even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly.
Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid.
It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences,
and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life.
When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage
they create a spirit unique to themselves,
which binds them closer than any spoken or written words.
Marriage is a promise, a potential,
made in the hearts of two people who love,
which takes a lifetime to fulfill.
A Man Kept His Mate By.....
He would make her his by giving her what no one else ever had. It was that simple. A man didn't hold a woman by making her his slave, his toy, or his victim. He didn't hold her through terror, or fear, or superior strength. A man kept his mate by making her want to stay. A man kept his mate by respecting her, pleasing her, loving her.
( An excerpt from " Bus.... Tum Ko Paana Hai ", a novel by IKRAM ABIDI )
A STORY OF LOVE ( NOT A LOVE STORY )
Once upon a time, there was an
island where all the feelings lived: Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all of the others
including Love. One day it was announced to the feelings that the island would sink, so
all repaired their boats and left. Love was the only one who stayed.
Love wanted to persevere until the last possible moment. When the island was almost
sinking, Love decided to ask for help. Richness was passing by Love in a grand boat.
Love said, " Richness, can you
take me with you? " Richness
answered, " No, I can't. There is
a lot of gold and silver in my boat. There is no place here for you."
Love decided to ask Vanity who was also passing by in a beautiful vessel, " Vanity, please help me! "
" I can't help you Love. You are all wet and might damage my boat," Vanity answered.
Sadness was close by
so Love asked for help, " Sadness,
let me go with you."
" Oh...Love, I am so sad that I need to be by myself ! " Said sadness.
Happiness passed by
Love too, but she was so happy that she did not even hear when Love called her !
Suddenly, there was a voice, "
Come Love, I will take you." It
was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that he even forgot to ask the elder her
name. When they arrived on dry land, the elder went her own way. Love realizing how much
he owed the elder asked Knowledge, another elder, " Who helped me?"
" It was Time," Knowledge answered.
" Time? " asked Love. " But why did Time help me? "
Knowledge smiled with deep Wisdom and answered, "Because only TIME is capable of understanding how great LOVE
is."
SOME LOVE QUOTATIONS OF OUR CHOICE
The secret of a successful
relationship between a man and woman is that, one of them should be good at taking orders.
-- Anonymous
Friendship often ends in love, but
love in friendship never.
-- Herbert Shipman
Better to have loved a short man than
never to have loved a tall.
-- David Chambless
The way to love anything is to realize
that it might be lost.
-- G. K. Chesterton
Love is shown in your deeds, not in your
words.
-- Fr. Jerome Cummings
There is only one kind of love, but
there are a thousand imitations.
-- François de La Rouchefoucauld
Love does not consist in gazing at each
other, but in looking outward together in the
same direction.
-- Antoine de Saint-Exupéry
Gravitation cannot be held responsible
for people falling in love.
-- Albert Einstein
It is wrong to think that love comes
from long companionship and persevering
courtship. Love is the offspring of spiritual affinity and unless that affinity is created
in a moment, it will not be created for years or even generations.
-- Khalil Gibran
The love we give away is the only love
we keep.
-- Elbert Hubbard
Life is the flower for which love is the honey.
-- Victor Hugo
Everybody can be great... because
anybody can serve. You don't have to have a
college degree to serve. You don't have to make your subject and verb agree to serve.
you only need a heart full of grace. a soul generated by love.
-- Martin Luther King, Jr.
Love is an emotion experienced by the
many and enjoyed by the few.
-- George Jean Nathan
The first duty of love is to listen.
-- Paul Tillich
If love is the answer, could you
rephrase the question?
-- Lily Tomlin
You can't buy love, but you can pay
heavily for it.
-- Henny Youngman
"You may only be one person to the
world but you may also be the world to
one person."
--Anonymous
"I never knew how to worship until
I knew how to love."
--Henry Ward Beecher
"To Love is nothing. To be loved is
something. To love and to be loved is
everything."
--Anonymous
"Love is a promise, love is a
souvenir, once given never forgotten, never let it
disappear."
--John Lennon
"Love is something eternal; the
aspect may change, but not the essence."
--Vincent Van Gogh
"In the arithmetic of love, one
plus one equals everything, and two minus one
equals nothing."
--Mignon McLaughlin
"Who travels for love finds a
thousand miles not longer than one."
--Japanese Proverb.
"A man is not where he lives, but
where he loves."
--Latin Proverb
"There is only one happiness in
life, to love and be loved."
--George Sands
"At the touch of love, everyone
becomes a poet."
--Plato
"Love is that condition in which
the happiness of another person is essential to
your own."
--Robert Heinlein
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